GENERAL BEHAVIOURAL PROBLEMS: TEMPER TANTRUMS
Thursday, May 21st, 2009Virtually every child, no matter how easy his temperament, will go through a phase of temper tantrums. This is a manifestation of the struggle for autonomy that is an important developmental phase for the toddler. Temper tantrums are seen generally between 6 months and 6 years of age, and have their peak around 18-36 months (the ‘Terrible Twos’). Usually they decrease over time, unless reinforced by parents, in which case they will become a child’s learned response to frustration or to not getting his own way.
Cause
There is no discernible cause for temper tantrums. They are seen as an inevitable consequence of a youngster’s struggle to assert autonomy and independence from his parents. The immediate precipitating cause for a tantrum is almost always frustration, either to the parent saying ‘no’ to a request so that the child is not allowed to have his way, or else the frustration that comes from the child not being able to perform some developmental task. Usually the tantrum is manipulative and directed towards the parents.
Clinical features
All parents will be only too aware of the characteristics of a temper tantrum. While the precipitating factors, intensity, duration and action during a tantrum will vary from child to child, there are certain features which are universal. In response to frustration — usually the parent saying ‘no’ — the child may scream, throw himself on the floor, vigorously flail arms and legs, often kicking toys, furniture, the floor, or the parents. Sometimes toys and other objects are thrown across the room. The episode is usually terminated by the parent, who distracts the child or gives in to the original demand, or else picks the child up.
Left to his own devices, however, the child usually loses interest in the tantrum as soon as he is deprived of an audience. Parents will observe that the child stops the tantrum momentarily at regular intervals to make sure that the parent is still in the room. In other words, the parent is clearly the target of the demonstration, and this provides the most important clue for management of temper tantrums.
Toddlers seem expert at picking the times when parents are the most vulnerable to the effects of a full-blown temper tantrum, such as when they are out shopping (‘the supermarket syndrome’), or else visiting friends. This of course makes it even more likely that the tantrum will have the desired effect, and in turn will strengthen the child’s resolve to turn it on again the next time — ’same time, same place’.
Sometimes the child seems to lose control during a tantrum, so he becomes really worked up and genuinely distressed. What started off as a manipulative ploy then becomes a rather frightening event for the child.
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